Have you meet someone who seems everything is wrong with their lives? Or a magnet of bad lucks? Your car broke down on a highway, "oh this is going to be a bad day", you lost your wallet "it's a sign of worst is yet to come". A self fulfilling prophecy indeed! We feel burden as we get through the day.
We can design our day on how we want it to be. We have a choice on how we want to live our life.
"I'm not good enough", "I wish I were.." and the famous "If only.."
The battle starts in our head. It's up to the voices we choose to listen, from the child chair or the adult version of ourselves. #designyourlife #masteryourhabits #dreambig
I've met a guy who has low self esteem. He hides it through sarcasm and the ego is always at play whenever he's face with "difficult situations" - the need to be vulnerable. He asked me to help him lift his low vibrations, after hearing me talked about my healing village project.
I asked him to give me scenarios where he feels insecure, uncertain, or lose confidence. I found out that it all stems from his parents scolding him publicly and the old tape replaying every time there is a need to step up. His authentic voice is buried between his indecisiveness and introversion. In fact, he's not an introvert, he speak sensibly and has leadership qualities. His only problem? The fear of crossing the bright side of life.
We are so comfortable with our own misery. We make excuses to say YES to the life we deserve, there's nothing and no one can help us but ourselves. We refuse to learn, to educate ourselves on things that we don't know. Then we become experts on people and topics that we see trending on social media. :P
Before I was not into wellness, the thought of yoga and meditation has negative undertone to me. "Is it some black magic or some cult practice?" Open mindedness and knowledge are powerful indeed.
And there's another woman who has cluttered mind. The thought of quietness and peace is uncomfortable to her. She has to keep talking or else she feels awkward all the time. She can't silence the inner voice in her head. She uses her voice, that presence that needs to be felt whenever she's around. Her children avoids any kind of conversation whenever she's home. "Mom nags too much", as they describes her. She ignore whatever her children says and prefer to stay that way because "it's the method that works" for her.
Then there's my mom who saw the world as "living life is hard work, everything is tough and she always find a "problem on every situation".
These 3 scenarios has one thing in common - their limiting beliefs.
How can we start living our life with peacefulness, abundance and joy? - That's what everyone wants right??
1. Knowing yourself
Where do you start? By learning the parts of you, are you stuck in an emotional trauma? What's your parents like? Are you happy as a kid? Is the happy child in you still there? Or she/he got lost somewhere in adolescence? Starts with, here are the things that I don't like so that you'll learn the things that you like. And you keep accepting, doing and discovering only the things that makes you fulfilled and happy.
2. Mastering a habit
Rome wasn't built in one day, as they say. Even God, the Divine, the universe was not completed in one day. We have to go through the spiral of life. It's either you wanted to stay where you are right now or you want to keep moving and mastering your skills/habits, you have all the time in the world to do that. Don't abandon yourself by staying stuck and giving up. One step at a time. Baby steps. Not one big leap. Nobody (and we should not let anyone) tell us that we need to jump far ahead to get farther in life.
3. Continuous learning / educating yourself
Our only power is knowledge and wisdom from above. Sometimes we don't like getting out of our shell because it's comfortable of not knowing things rather than being burden and pushing ourselves to change. We hate changes. We want something constant and stable all the time. Each of us has responsibility and purpose to the world. If we don't want to know our mission, we stay where we are - sleep walking, going through life autonomously, flowing through the rivers of life and that's it, we come to an end. I don't want my obituary to say "graduated, got a job, got married, had kids, died" or worse, no one knows you to tell your story.
It's not bad to want things that are best for you. As we become adults, we forgot dreaming and visualising good things. Dream of where you want to be, what you want to become. And you will get there.
Advocate of authentic self. Lover of life. Passionate on understanding humans. Serving with a purpose, one day at a time.