"The people who affect you the most are the ones closest to you, and usually the ones you know you really love." - Banks
Banks talk about a passive - aggressive relationship on this song. She questioned herself and worth. It's basically the same for us when we have push and pull relationships. "Are we worthy of love and attention?" We always seek for validation from these people who are wrong for us.
When I was sleep walking with my life, I used to say YES to everything. I also used to worry all the time about what other people will say about me. I found myself that I had to explain all of my actions to everyone - to those people who doesn't add value to my being. I didn't know what standards and boundaries are. #setyourstandards
Do you draw a line between you and toxic people that you meet? Do you warn them not to cross the line? What do you mean, where is the line?
It's called putting a boundary, a distance between people and situation in our lives. We think of boundaries as an imaginary line that separate us from people. When you are in crowded lift, it's normal to touch shoulders or worst close body contact with strangers. For others, they are aware of "invading my personal space." And being in a crowded close space makes these types of people uncomfortable and claustrophobic. You are invading someone else's 3 feet distance rule. #setlimits #boundaries
To my strong independent humans out there, let's talk about S T A N D A R D S. What are the things you tolerate and you don't tolerate? Whether in a relationship, friends and people in general. At first, I didn't know what's good and bad for me so I tolerated things that were not acceptable to me, saying yes to everything and everyone for the sake of pleasing people. I found myself stuck on a vicious cycle. "Why I keep dealing with the similar types?" #selfworth
Advocate of authentic self. Lover of life. Passionate on understanding humans. Serving with a purpose, one day at a time.