Today's post was inspired by a woman on Youtube. She wanted to be heard and understood. She's coming from a place of "all I want is to build a family". It was heartbreaking for me to see her crying, putting herself out there and narrating her challenges on dating and being single in her 30s. I hear YOU. #trustthetimingofyourlife
Women should support each other, it should be a community of loving and compassionate individuals but we shame and judge each other about why we are still single.
For her who's calling out men, she just want to have a decent relationship and find a man that she can start a family with. She knows what she wants but she needs help to get there. (It was 2 years ago and now she found her boyfriend).
I checked on myself if I wanted the same thing that she was talking about. In my case, we have a different purpose on life. I have the same sentiments about online dating too. I am upset how social media, online dating ruined the dating culture. But I am not devasted about dating - because I don't do dates at all. I'm already over on meeting guys, doing small talks, chatting that goes nowhere. I'd rather focus my energy on something productive and meaningful to me. That's our difference - she wants a family, she wants to have kids while I don't want to have kids and the idea of building a family - what's it's like - is still blurry to me.
All I know and what is clear to me is that I have a purpose and it's my mission to share it to the world so I am not concerned anymore if I'll get married or not. I am already disappointed like her on meeting crappy men, wasted times, and exhausting your energy to put out there. I'm not saying that we have to give up being pretty and becoming a lady. It's our full time job to take care of ourselves. It's not our job though to chase men and questioned ourselves why we are not likeable. We have to learn that we are likeable, we are enough, we are worth more than anything than a guy's validation. And there's only one match for a unique, awesome individual like you.
While you are single now, learn how to choose yourself a hundred percent!! Learn how to choose yourself for being you with all imperfections, and remember that self worth, self love is a never ending journey. Don't give up on YOU.
Advocate of authentic self. Lover of life. Passionate on understanding humans. Serving with a purpose, one day at a time.